Books -Recommendation

Family Rules

Family values put into action through family rules.  Family rules define what is and isn’t allowed in your family. They apply to everyone in the family. The setting up of family rules help to stabilize the family.  It provides a strong foundation for orderliness, security, safety and stability in the family. Each family has different family rules.  The rules give a sense of security and safety for the children so that they know there is a sense of orderliness.

The following information is from Parenting with Confidence Workshop organized by Focus on Family (Singapore). Psychologist Kay Kuzma gives these baselines for setting rules with children.  The first one,“ You cannot hurt yourself- that means you are not allowed to play with matches in the kitchen because it is dangerous.” The second one is “You cannot hurt others”- that means that no physical injury or emotional hurt to others.”The third one is “You can’t hurt things” – you can’t kick the dust bin when you are angry.

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Books- Recommendation

Helping Children to Cope with Failure

Before parents want to help children to cope with failure, parents need to know your own definition of success. It means different things to different person. What is your measurement yardstick for success. At different point of our lives, our definition of success will change.

Definition of success
What is the definition of success for a student?  It varies from a student to another student.  Therefore, each student has to define success for himself or herself.    Once he or she achieved the goal, he or she considered as success in achieving the goal.  Then, he or she can set a higher and attainable goal next time. If he or she cannot achieve the goal, he or she needs to learn how to face failure or setback in life.


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How to Help Young Children with Language Development

A lot of young parents want to know the ways to help their children with language development. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, language development is a process starting early in human life, when a person begins to acquire language by learning it as it is spoken and by mimicry (speech repetition). Children’s language development moves from simple to complex. Infants start without language. Yet by four months of age, babies can read lips and discriminate speech sounds. The language that infants speak is called babbling (or baby talk).

Read more: http://socyberty.com/languages/how-to-help-young-children-with-language-development/#ixzz13cejEZuJ

 

Book recommendation:Siblings without rilvary

Love and Care with Siblings

According to From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, “parents can reduce the opportunity for sibling rivalry by refusing to compare or typecast their children, teaching the children positive ways to get attention from each other and from the parent, planning fun family activities together, and making sure each child has enough time and space of their own.” In fact, parents can help children to improve their relationship by expressing feelings, affirming their love with siblings, setting ground rules, giving some helpful questions for children to ponder.

http://socyberty.com/disabled/love-and-care-with-siblings/

Putting Problem Solving Approach Into Practice in Parenting

When you face a problem or an issue presented by your children, you may use problem solving approach to understand and resolve problems. Treating problem as a valuable learning opportunity, you may use questioning to help them express their feeling and ask them suitable and relevant questions to help them resolve their problems. The questions will develop their problem-solving, thinking and planning skills.

Part 1: Theory

Step1:Express feeling and emotion

You may help your children to express their emotion. You can tell or share with their children about their feelings. For instance, a mother said to his child, “You appeared to be very angry. What is happening?”

Step 2:Think

You may teach their children thinking skill. You may ask your child,”What can you do to solve the problem?” or “What can I do to help?”
When your children have suggested some methods or ways, you need to recognise their effort to help themselves and ask them the outcome or impact of their action on others. You may guide them to find the best way to solve their problem.

Step 3:Act




Once the children have decided the best solution, they need the support or encouragement to act on their decision. You can ask them,”What do they learn from the experience and what will you do now?”









Click the below link to find out the article.
http://quazen.com/reference/putting-problem-solving-approach-into-practice-in-parenting/

Cultivating Good Character by The Family Tree

I learnt from Jim Weidmann (Source: Focus on the Family Magazine: Feb/March 2003) to put up a family tree- a narrowly trimmed synthetic tree that looks like a Christmas tree.  We also learn to put up a character tree from our children’s school- Character Montessori.  At school, they used the Character First program to impart good character on children.  At home, we followed the program and continue to reinforce good character at home.

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Cultivate Good Character or Value on Children

What is the greatest gift to the children?  Is it money, skills or value?  In fact, the good character and value are very important for the foundation for children’s personality development.  With good value and character, the children will know how to make a right choice in their life. Parents would like to impart character or value on children e.g. attentiveness, truthfulness patience and so on. 

Cultivate Good Character or Value on Children

Helping Children Cope with Anxiety Towards Test or Examination

When examination time is nearby, children will feel different degree of worry or concern over the examination. When a child share with parents about his or worry about examination, parents need find out the source of anxiety. Does the child, parents or teachers have a high expectation on the child? How does a child feel about the examination? What is the child‘s belief of the examination? Is the child fear of failure? Is the child worry about letting parents down if she or he cannot get good results? Is the child doing his or her best to prepare for the examination?

Read more: http://healthmad.com/mental-health/helping-children-cope-with-anxiety-towards-test-or-examination/

Tips for Parents to Help Children Preparing for Examination

Most parents are very concerned over the academic study of our children.  I suggest that parents can relax first.  When parents are relaxed, the children will learn from their parents’ life skill in coping with examination.  Examination is important for children, but it is not the only priority in their life. 

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How to Help Children to Cope with Anxiety

Anxiety is a psychological and physiological state characterized by cognitive, somatic, emotional, and behavioral components. These components combine to create an unpleasant feeling that is typically associated with uneasiness (From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia).  Do you experience the difficulty to bring a child to see a dentist or doctor?  Parents sometimes feel helpless when they don’t know how to help their children cope with anxiety of seeing doctors or dentists. The followings are some tips to help parents so that they can assist their children to cope with anxiety.

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Memory and Bonding Games for Children

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopaedia, memory is an organism’s ability to store, keep, and recall information. Memory games help children to focus, concentrate and recall their memory. Memory game helps brain development. Parents can train up children memory and bond with them through the games.

Click the below link to find out more about the different memory and bonding games for children.
http://quazen.com/games/memory-and-bonding-games-for-children/