Wise Parents (智慧父母－胎儿与儿童教导 )

The Impact of Stress of Mother on Fetus

2010-12-02T01:57:00.000-08:00

http://healthmad.com/mental-health/the-impact-of-stress-of-mother-on-fetus/The following article will focus on the impact of maternal stress on her fetus. A mother with good emotional health will promote an optimal growth of unborn baby. When mother is stressed, she will affect her unborn baby’s emotional and mental health.

The following article will focus on the impact of maternal stress on her fetus.

1. Emotional stress of pregnant mothers

Studies show that emotionally affected mothers may give birth to babies at higher risk for sleep problems, digestive problems and irritability. Pregnant mothers with stress altered the hormonal environment of the fetus which resulted in anxious children.

2. Hormones and fetus

The placenta provides a growing fetus with nutrients, water, hormones to keep the pregnancy. Malnutrition may also add to stress hormones in the mother and upset the growth of the fetus. The lack of nutrition and exposure to pollutants may drastically affect the fetus development.

Mothers’ feeling and moods are connected to hormones and neurotransmitters that go through the bloodstream and across the placenta to the growing brain of the fetus.
It has been suggested that maternal stress results in maternal glucocorticoid secretion that have negative effects on unborn baby. Overexposure to stress hormones gets ready the growing brain to react in fight-or-flight throughout life.
On the contrary, mothers’ emphasis on joy and love submerges the developing brain in “feel-good” endorphins and neurohormones promoting a lifelong sense of well-being. In fact, it also decreases in stress and later stress-related diseases. It offers some advantages for pregnant and laboring women.

Read more on the article: http://healthmad.com/mental-health/the-impact-of-stress-of-mother-on-fetus/

How to Cope with Stress

2010-12-01T01:50:00.000-08:00

Positive self-talk

When you take a positive view of the potential stressful situation, you will be able to cope better than another person who sees stress negatively. If you take failure as a feedback for learning in life rather than setback, you will be able to cope better because of positive reframing. It is a way of changing the way you look at thing, it will alter your experience. It will help to lessen the stressors you see in life. According to Brain Tracy, “Whatever you say to yourself, with emotion, generates thoughts, ideas and behaviors consistent with those words.” When we use positive self-talk and reframing technique, it will help us to change other thinking and emotion. It will help us to cope better with stress.

Relaxation

It aids you to cope with stress better. You need to find a place to be free from distraction, switch off computer, hand phone and telephone. You can select your favourite relaxing music. You can sit down in and comfortable place for relaxation. When you are ready, you can close your eyes. You can tighten your muscle first. Then, you let go of the tension. You can start from head to toe. You can experience the difference between tense and relax state.

Read more on the whole article: http://healthmad.com/mental-health/how-to-cope-with-stress

How to Reduce Stress During Pregnancy

2010-11-30T01:48:00.000-08:00

Pregnancy is a stage where mother will face many ups and down in the life. There is a lot of unexpected joy and challenge during pregnancy. Stress is one of the most common problems many pregnant mothers face during their pregnancy. The following are some ways to help mother to lessen stress or cope with stress better.

Keep a good physical health

Pregnant woman will need to exercises (e.g. walking, prenatal exercise, prenatal yoga etc.) to maintain good health. Doing house chores (e.g. cleaning, mopping, ironing etc.) will help to stimulate energy flow and increase the supply of oxygen and blood. Thus, doing exercise and house chore help mother to strengthen physical health, to relax and cope better with stress.

Balanced diet and enough rest
Eating and resting are important for pregnant mothers. They need to take a balanced diet with sufficient nutrient for mother and baby. They can consult dietitian to seek advice on the diet to tailor for the need and medical condition of mother. In addition, mothers needed to have enough rest so they can restore their energy.

Read more of the whole article: http://healthmad.com/health/how-to-reduce-stress-during-pregnancy

Books -Recommendation

2010-10-29T21:29:00.000-07:00

Family Rules

2010-10-29T21:26:00.000-07:00

Family values put into action through family rules. Family rules define what is and isn’t allowed in your family. They apply to everyone in the family. The setting up of family rules help to stabilize the family. It provides a strong foundation for orderliness, security, safety and stability in the family. Each family has different family rules. The rules give a sense of security and safety for the children so that they know there is a sense of orderliness.

The following information is from Parenting with Confidence Workshop organized by Focus on Family (Singapore). Psychologist Kay Kuzma gives these baselines for setting rules with children. The first one,“ You cannot hurt yourself- that means you are not allowed to play with matches in the kitchen because it is dangerous.” The second one is “You cannot hurt others”- that means that no physical injury or emotional hurt to others.”The third one is “You can’t hurt things” – you can’t kick the dust bin when you are angry.

Read more: http://gomestic.com/family/family-rules-2/#ixzz13cmBJUDO

Books- Recommendation

2010-10-28T21:17:00.000-07:00

Helping Children to Cope with Failure

2010-10-28T09:00:00.000-07:00

Before parents want to help children to cope with failure, parents need to know your own definition of success. It means different things to different person. What is your measurement yardstick for success. At different point of our lives, our definition of success will change.

Definition of success
What is the definition of success for a student? It varies from a student to another student. Therefore, each student has to define success for himself or herself. Once he or she achieved the goal, he or she considered as success in achieving the goal. Then, he or she can set a higher and attainable goal next time. If he or she cannot achieve the goal, he or she needs to learn how to face failure or setback in life.

Read more: http://gomestic.com/family/helping-children-to-cope-with-failure/#ixzz13chOPmL1

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2010-10-27T22:45:00.001-07:00

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How to Help Young Children with Language Development

2010-10-27T21:01:00.000-07:00

A lot of young parents want to know the ways to help their children with language development. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, language development is a process starting early in human life, when a person begins to acquire language by learning it as it is spoken and by mimicry (speech repetition). Children’s language development moves from simple to complex. Infants start without language. Yet by four months of age, babies can read lips and discriminate speech sounds. The language that infants speak is called babbling (or baby talk).

Book recommendation:Siblings without rilvary

2010-10-27T20:46:00.000-07:00

Love and Care with Siblings

2010-10-27T20:44:00.000-07:00

According to From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, “parents can reduce the opportunity for sibling rivalry by refusing to compare or typecast their children, teaching the children positive ways to get attention from each other and from the parent, planning fun family activities together, and making sure each child has enough time and space of their own.” In fact, parents can help children to improve their relationship by expressing feelings, affirming their love with siblings, setting ground rules, giving some helpful questions for children to ponder.

http://socyberty.com/disabled/love-and-care-with-siblings/

Putting Problem Solving Approach Into Practice in Parenting

2010-10-27T20:32:00.000-07:00

When you face a problem or an issue presented by your children, you may use problem solving approach to understand and resolve problems. Treating problem as a valuable learning opportunity, you may use questioning to help them express their feeling and ask them suitable and relevant questions to help them resolve their problems. The questions will develop their problem-solving, thinking and planning skills.

Part 1: Theory

Step1:Express feeling and emotion

You may help your children to express their emotion. You can tell or share with their children about their feelings. For instance, a mother said to his child, “You appeared to be very angry. What is happening?”

Step 2:Think

You may teach their children thinking skill. You may ask your child,”What can you do to solve the problem?” or “What can I do to help?”
When your children have suggested some methods or ways, you need to recognise their effort to help themselves and ask them the outcome or impact of their action on others. You may guide them to find the best way to solve their problem.

Step 3:Act

Once the children have decided the best solution, they need the support or encouragement to act on their decision. You can ask them,”What do they learn from the experience and what will you do now?”

Click the below link to find out the article.
http://quazen.com/reference/putting-problem-solving-approach-into-practice-in-parenting/

Cultivating Good Character by The Family Tree

2010-10-27T20:19:00.000-07:00

I learnt from Jim Weidmann (Source: Focus on the Family Magazine: Feb/March 2003) to put up a family tree- a narrowly trimmed synthetic tree that looks like a Christmas tree. We also learn to put up a character tree from our children’s school- Character Montessori. At school, they used the Character First program to impart good character on children. At home, we followed the program and continue to reinforce good character at home.

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Cultivate Good Character or Value on Children

2010-10-27T20:12:00.000-07:00

What is the greatest gift to the children? Is it money, skills or value? In fact, the good character and value are very important for the foundation for children’s personality development. With good value and character, the children will know how to make a right choice in their life. Parents would like to impart character or value on children e.g. attentiveness, truthfulness patience and so on.

Cultivate Good Character or Value on Children

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Twitter - PregnantCoach

2010-10-11T00:23:00.001-07:00

I have written my post to the twitter on parenting and prenatal training. Those who are interested to find out more about my post. You can click the http://twitter .com/pregnantcoach

Helping Children Cope with Anxiety Towards Test or Examination

2010-10-10T19:05:00.000-07:00

When examination time is nearby, children will feel different degree of worry or concern over the examination. When a child share with parents about his or worry about examination, parents need find out the source of anxiety. Does the child, parents or teachers have a high expectation on the child? How does a child feel about the examination? What is the child‘s belief of the examination? Is the child fear of failure? Is the child worry about letting parents down if she or he cannot get good results? Is the child doing his or her best to prepare for the examination?

Read more: http://healthmad.com/mental-health/helping-children-cope-with-anxiety-towards-test-or-examination/

Tips for Parents to Help Children Preparing for Examination

2010-10-10T19:02:00.000-07:00

Most parents are very concerned over the academic study of our children. I suggest that parents can relax first. When parents are relaxed, the children will learn from their parents’ life skill in coping with examination. Examination is important for children, but it is not the only priority in their life.

Read more: http://gomestic.com/family/tips-for-parents-to-help-children-preparing-for-examination/#ixzz120mCTX00

How to Help Children to Cope with Anxiety

2010-10-10T18:58:00.000-07:00

Anxiety is a psychological and physiological state characterized by cognitive, somatic, emotional, and behavioral components. These components combine to create an unpleasant feeling that is typically associated with uneasiness (From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia). Do you experience the difficulty to bring a child to see a dentist or doctor? Parents sometimes feel helpless when they don’t know how to help their children cope with anxiety of seeing doctors or dentists. The followings are some tips to help parents so that they can assist their children to cope with anxiety.

Read more: http://healthmad.com/health/how-to-help-children-to-cope-with-anxiety/#ixzz120la0QMN

Memory and Bonding Games for Children

2010-10-10T18:55:00.000-07:00

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopaedia, memory is an organism’s ability to store, keep, and recall information. Memory games help children to focus, concentrate and recall their memory. Memory game helps brain development. Parents can train up children memory and bond with them through the games.

Click the below link to find out more about the different memory and bonding games for children.
http://quazen.com/games/memory-and-bonding-games-for-children/

Bonds with Your Children

2010-04-22T19:30:00.000-07:00

Bonds with Your Children

Children need our love and attention. Some people think the quality time with children is enough. In fact, children want not only our quality time but quantity time. If we do not have enough time with our children, it will affect our relationship with children. I suggest some interesting bonding activities for parents to connect with their children.

Three Ways to Build Relationship with Your Children

2010-04-22T19:29:00.000-07:00

Three Ways to Build Relationship with Your Children

Some parents told me that they want to connect with their children, but they are at a loss at time. They do not know what to do to build their relationship with their children as they put too much time in their work. Parents should put their children first and spend time with their children. It will help them to build parent-child relationship. I suggest the following activities to do with their children to connect with them.

Connecting with Your Children

2010-04-22T18:58:00.000-07:00

Connecting with Your Children

Children love their parents take part in the games and sports with them. The more time parents spend with their children, the closer the bond with their children. I will suggest some ways for parents to connect with their children. I hope the methods will be helpful for parents.

A Personalized Black and White Book for Infant Stimulation

2010-04-22T18:53:00.000-07:00

A Personalized Black and White Book for Infant Stimulation

Infant stimulation helps babies to develop their senses of touch, smell, sound, sight and taste. It will improve baby’s learning and development. Thus, it helps with self confidence of the baby. Infant stimulation will increase attention and concentration span that are the foundation for further learning.

Increase Sense of Belongings to Family

2010-04-22T18:50:00.000-07:00

Increase Sense of Belongings to Family

What can parents do as a family to increase the sense of belongings of the children? Spending time with children can help to bond with children and thus increase the sense of belongings of children. The art and craft work of family tree will help family to develop a sense of belonging and identity in the family.

孩子的产前记忆的回忆

2010-02-22T20:47:00.000-08:00

由Wai Chong Mak　写在 2009年12月11日

当我学习了右脑训练并且开始了Makoto Shichida博士写胎儿产前记忆，我惊奇发现孩子有产前记忆。是令人惊讶的知道3到5岁孩子可能有产前经验。

当我要求我的长子，是5岁，与我那时分享他的产前记忆。他与我关系了什么他看见了他什么时候是在我的子宫并且与我分享他的在这样细节的经验它使我惊奇。他描述了图画并且解释了什么是象他什么时候由水袋子围拢。

我要求我的长子， “什么做您感觉象在我的子宫？” 他回答了”，它是松弛和愉快的。我画了我的一张微笑的面孔”。

我要求他， “什么您在我的子宫看见了？” 他回复了， “我看见了水和您吃了-鸡的食物，米、土豆、菜、蘑菇和红萝卜”。实际上，这些是在我的怀孕期间，我爱吃的食物。

我要求我的长子， “什么您然后听见了？” 他回答了， “我听见了很多一大口声音。我听歌曲-由祖母唱歌的小宝宝。我爱这首歌曲。我现在可以唱这首歌曲”。

我要求他， “什么您想然后告诉我？” 他说， “我想要告诉您那我爱你”。

产前记忆是孩子的非常重大和第一记忆。我建议您与您的大孩子谈话要求他们与您分享他们的产前经验，当他们准备好时。它帮助了解和建立与您的孩子的深刻的关系。您可以鼓励他们分享产前记忆的任何方面。您可以聆听您孩子的分享。有很多关于产前记忆和胎儿, 我能和您分享一些我的经验。

Editor: Mak Wai Chong
http://wiseparents.net/theEbook

Original Article:
http://socyberty.com/psychology/the-recall-of-the-prenatal-memory-of-a-child/

Tool for translation: http://sg.babelfish.yahoo.com/

The Recall of The Prenatal Memory of a Child

2010-02-16T21:24:00.000-08:00

The Recall of The Prenatal Memory of a Child

Current information about prenatal memory is not always the easiest thing to find. Have you ever wondered what exactly is up with prenatal memory?

You may not consider everything you just read to be important information about prenatal memory. But don’t be surprised if you find yourself recalling and using this information in future.

http://shetoldme.com/Lifestyle/Unconditional-Love-and-Acceptance-of-Unborn-Baby

2010-02-16T21:10:00.000-08:00

http://shetoldme.com/Lifestyle/Unconditional-Love-and-Acceptance-of-Unborn-Baby

Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of one’s actions or beliefs according to Wikipedia. It is often used to describe love between family members. Giving unconditional love to your unborn baby means that you love him or her totally as a human being. Unconditional acceptance is the total acceptance of a person without judging. The mother will totally accept the unborn baby as who he or she is without judging their health, physical, emotional and spiritual state.

THE IMPACT OF STRESS OF MOTHER ON FETUS - ANXIETY

2010-02-16T21:09:00.000-08:00

THE IMPACT OF STRESS OF MOTHER ON FETUS - ANXIETY

The following article will focus on the impact of maternal stress on her fetus. A mother with good emotional health will promote an optimal growth of unborn baby. When mother is stressed, she will affect her unborn baby’s emotional and mental health.

Compose a Song for Your Unborn Baby

2010-02-16T21:08:00.000-08:00

Compose a Song for Your Unborn Baby

Have you ever wondered if what you can compose a song for unborn baby? The following paragraphs will give you some tips to compose a song specially for your unborn baby.So far, we’ve uncovered some interesting facts about composing a song for unborn baby. You may decide the following information is even more interesting.

2010-01-25T15:27:00.001-08:00

Can Unborn Baby Choose His or Her Name?
Some people think that unborn baby does not have the capacity to think and respond. However, the science research shows that baby can respond to the external environment and learning starts in the womb.
Read More

2010-01-25T15:20:00.001-08:00

Imparting Good Character on Children
Character is significant in children. It just likes a compass to guide them in the choice of their action. Parents want to cultivate character or value on children for example attentiveness, truthfulness patience and so on.
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Imaging Of Unborn Baby or Fetus

2010-01-23T19:13:00.000-08:00

Imaging Of Unborn Baby or Fetus

The following paragraphs summarize of my learning and experience of visualization, unborn baby, communication and pregnancy. It seems like new information is discovered about something every day. Keep reading to get more fresh news about imaging of unborn baby.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/imaging-of-unborn-baby-or-fetus.html

Bonding Activity

2010-01-23T19:05:00.000-08:00

Make a collage or draw to share your experience with your unborn baby.

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Nine Questions For Parents' Reflection

2010-01-22T17:53:00.000-08:00

Nine Questions For Parents' Reflection

It is very challenging to be parents. You will go through a lot of joy and sorrow in the process. The adorable children may sometimes be very demanding to test our boundaries. You may get emotionally frustrated at their behavior or character. The good news is that it is very normal to have this reaction.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/nine-questions-for-parents%27-reflection.html

FREE PERSONALIZED BLACK AND WHITE BABY BOOK FOR INFANT LEARNING & STIMULATION - BABY LEARNING & INFANT STIMULATION

2010-01-20T00:52:00.000-08:00

FREE PERSONALIZED BLACK AND WHITE BABY BOOK FOR INFANT LEARNING & STIMULATION - BABY LEARNING & INFANT STIMULATION

Ways to raise Self Esteem

2010-01-18T21:03:00.000-08:00

Ways To Raise Self Esteem

Self esteem affects every aspect of our lives: how we feel about ourselves and others; how confident we feel; how negative or positive we are.

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2010-01-15T22:54:00.000-08:00

A Child Sees A Dentist

This is an article on tips of how to bring a child (especially young kids) to see a dentist and how to help them overcome fear of seeing a dentist.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/a-child-sees-a-dentist.html

Connecting Unborn Babies with their Fathers

2010-01-13T17:18:00.000-08:00

Connecting Unborn Babies with their Fathers

Father plays a significant part in building the trust and bond with the unborn baby . His involvement will help the unborn baby to develop the sense of trust and security in the earliest stage.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/connecting-unborn-babies-with-their-fathers.html

Important Messages To Pregnant Mothers

2010-01-12T23:58:00.000-08:00

Important Messages To Pregnant Mothers

Do you ever feel like you know just enough about pregnancy and prenatal training. Let us see if we can fill in some of the gaps from my sharing and my son's messages to pregnant mothers.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/important-messages-to-pregnant-mothers.html

Bonding Activity

2010-01-10T16:04:00.000-08:00

Invite older sibling to make a tape for unborn baby during your pregnancy as a gift to unborn baby.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/composing-a-song-for-your-unborn-baby.html

Bonding Activities

2010-01-09T23:27:00.000-08:00

Invite the older siblings to sing a nursery rhyme for the unborn baby during your pregnancy.

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Teaching Children Forgiveness

2010-01-08T18:55:00.000-08:00

Teaching Children Forgiveness

The information in the article below comes straight from my working experience with children in teaching them forgiveness.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/teaching-children-forgiveness

Powerful Prayer

2010-01-05T22:12:00.000-08:00

Powerful Prayer

The following will share with you how powerful prayer is to help me conceive my third child. This is based on my personal sharing of my experience. I hope it can give some insight to the wonder of prayer in your life.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/powerful-prayer.html

My son's writing

2010-01-05T22:08:00.000-08:00

My Loving Family

This is the writing of my eldest son (aged 9) on my loving family.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/my-loving-family.html

Free Gift: A personalized Black and White book download Free Gift: A personalized Black and White book download

2010-01-05T22:03:00.000-08:00

This is a personalized black and white book for infants and babies for learning and stimulation. Click the following link for a free download:

http://www.redgage.com/wiseparents/personalized-black-and-white-book-for-baby.html

Composing A song for your unborn baby

2010-01-05T21:54:00.000-08:00

Have you ever wondered if what you can compose a song for unborn baby? The following paragraphs will give you some tips to compose a song specially for your unborn baby.

Composing a song for your unborn baby

The Learning of Unborn Baby

2009-12-29T01:21:00.000-08:00

The Learning of Unborn Baby

Current information about foetus learning is not always the easiest thing to find. Fortunately, this report includes the latest foetus learning information available.

http://www.redgage.com/links/wiseparents/the-learning-of-unborn-baby.html

Unexpected happiness and challenges during pregnancy

2009-12-26T03:48:00.000-08:00

Unexpected happiness and challenges during pregnancy

This article shared a few things about unanticipated joyfulness and challenges during pregnancy, and if your interested, then this is worth reading, because you can never tell what you dont know. It is based on my personal sharing of my experience.

My Article: The Power of Imaging during Pregnancy

2009-12-26T03:44:00.000-08:00

My Article: The Power of Imaging during Pregnancy

The following article shares with you on my experience with power of imagining during pregnancy. The power of imagining exercise helped me during my challenging time of my pregnancy.

My Creation of Lego Car

2009-12-26T03:42:00.000-08:00

Photo:My Creation of Lego Car

Fixing a Challenging Puzzle

2009-12-26T03:40:00.001-08:00

Photo: Fixing a Challenging Puzzle

I can prepare breakfast for my family

2009-12-26T03:33:00.000-08:00

Photo: I can prepare breakfast for my family

Connecting With Your Unborn Baby Ebook

2009-12-26T03:32:00.000-08:00

Connecting With Your Unborn Baby Ebook

Peaceful Reservoir

2009-12-19T01:18:00.001-08:00

Peaceful Reservoir

Penguins: Brotherhood

2009-12-19T01:18:00.000-08:00

Penguins: Brotherhood

My Art and Craft Work

2009-12-19T01:17:00.002-08:00

My Art and Craft Work

A Boy in an Elephant

2009-12-19T01:17:00.001-08:00

A Boy in an Elephant

I Can Do It

2009-12-19T01:17:00.000-08:00

I Can Do It

Merry Christmas Baby

2009-12-19T01:16:00.000-08:00

Merry Christmas Baby

Teaching Children Forgiveness

2009-12-14T19:42:00.001-08:00

Teaching Children Forgiveness

Coping with Labour

2009-12-14T19:42:00.000-08:00

Coping with Labour

Sunset

2009-12-14T19:41:00.000-08:00

Sunset

Compose a Song for Your Unborn Baby

2009-12-11T22:16:00.000-08:00

Compose a Song for Your Unborn Baby

The Recall of The Prenatal Memory of a Child

2009-12-11T02:27:00.000-08:00

The Recall of The Prenatal Memory of a Child

My Experience in Prenatal Training

2009-12-11T02:26:00.000-08:00

My Experience in Prenatal Training

Principles to Communicate with Unborn Baby

2009-12-10T19:14:00.001-08:00

Principles to Communicate with Unborn Baby

What Can We Do When We Stress Out?

2009-12-10T19:14:00.000-08:00

What Can We Do When We Stress Out?

Drawing Helps to Connect with Your Unborn Baby

2009-12-10T19:13:00.002-08:00

Drawing Helps to Connect with Your Unborn Baby

Beach

2009-12-10T19:13:00.001-08:00

Beach

Pretty Flower

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Pretty Flower

Flying Eagle

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Flying Eagle

My Experience in Prenatal Training

2009-12-10T19:10:00.000-08:00

My Experience in Prenatal Training

Drawing Helps to Connect with Your Unborn Baby

2009-12-09T02:16:00.001-08:00

Drawing Helps to Connect with Your Unborn Baby

Communication with Unborn Baby

2009-12-09T02:16:00.000-08:00

Communication with Unborn Baby

Beautiful Reservoir

2009-12-09T02:12:00.001-08:00

Beautiful Reservoir

How to Prepare Older Sibling for The Arrival of Baby

2009-12-09T02:12:00.000-08:00

How to Prepare Older Sibling for The Arrival of Baby

Music to Connect with Your Unborn Baby

2009-12-09T02:07:00.000-08:00

Music to Connect with Your Unborn Baby

Communication of Love Language with Your Spouse

2009-12-01T23:45:00.000-08:00

Communication of Love Language with Your Spouse

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Singing and signing of my third child, Felix

2009-10-03T03:28:00.000-07:00

When Felix was 1.5 years old, we started to use Signing Time DVDs to teach him sign language. He picked up sign language and language very fast at such young age. He could express himself by sign language first, then, he mastered the language very well.

We bought the whole series of Signing Time DVDs (including baby signing time) for him to learn at home, it becomes an effective tools for learning at home. At the age of three, he can recognize more than 3000 words and start to read Primary One level textbook.

He has keen passion to learn sign language through DVDs. He loves to sing, dance and sign together with Rachel, Alex, Leah and Hopkin. They become his best companions every day. I wish more people will be benefit from the wonderful learning and teaching material of signing time. I would highly recommend the Signing Time DVD to all the children for their learning.

Four Ways To Help Children Cope With Emotion

2009-10-01T23:48:00.001-07:00

Four Ways To Help Children Cope With Emotion

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Suggestion and Unborn Baby

2008-04-14T20:41:00.000-07:00

This interesting article addresses some of the key issues on suggestion and unborn Baby. A careful reading of this material could make a big difference in how you think about this topic.

The information about Suggestion and Unborn Baby presented here will do one of two things: either it will reinforce what you know about suggestion and unborn baby or it will teach you something new. Both are good outcomes.

According to Wikipedia, the free encyclopaedia, suggestion is the name given to the psychological process by which one person may guide the thoughts, feelings or behaviour of another.

The power of suggestion is an amazing tool to help you achieve something that you want. Our subconscious mind is controlled by the power of suggestion. This method is most effective when carried out just before you go to sleep because your conscious mind is then less active.

During my third pregnancy, I was bleeding in the 5th week. While doing the examination, the doctor discovered the shape of the water-bag was irregular and had many angles. In addition, the doctor told me that he had not been able to get the heartbeat of my baby.

I started to be concerned about my medical condition. I calmed myself down and suggested to my third child, "Baby, I need your help. Can you heal yourself? Your water-bag is getting round and smooth. You are strong and healthy. Your heartbeat is normal and strong." I suggested to my baby about 3 times a day which included one just before I went to sleep.

Within one and a half weeks, the shape of the water-bag was getting rounder and smoother. The doctor was able to find the heartbeat of baby in 6.5 weeks. I was simply overjoyed with the progress and expressed my gratitude to my third child.

In addition, I used suggestion to tell my unborn baby about wake up and sleep cycle. I told him daily before I went to bed,"Felix (name of my unborn baby), you shall sleep at 9:00 p.m. and wake up at 7:00a.m. Good night. I love you. Please wake me up with a gentle kick at 7:00 a.m." With practice for a week's time, he could wake me up at 7:00p.m. His sleeping and waking up times synchronize with my sleeping and waking up times. This example shows that unborn baby is responsive to our suggestion.

I found that applying the art of suggestion was helpful and powerful for the healing of my third child. The response from my unborn baby was remarkable.

So now you know a little bit about suggestion and unborn baby. Even if you don't know everything, you've done something worthwhile: you've expanded your knowledge.

Disclaimers: The author shares this article based on her personal and work experience and disclaims any responsibility for any liability, losses or damages and /or application of any of contents of this article.

About the Author

Ms Mak Wai Chong, a mother of 3 children, is a freelance trainer and counsellor. She has worked as social worker and counsellor for 17 years. Visit her website at http://www.WiseParents.net for prenatal training and parenting information and FREE newsletters.

This article is extracted from Connecting With Your Unborn Baby Ebook. For further information, please visit www.wiseparents.net/theEbook.php

Support Children Cope With Pain

2008-03-30T19:40:00.000-07:00

Would you like to find out more about support children cope with pain? The information in the article below comes straight from my working experience with children suffering from chronic or life-threatening illnesses. The more information about this topic you know, the more likely you are able to support children cope with pain.

Imagine that we are at the doctor’s clinic. You see a child crying and yelling because of pain inflicted by injection and medical treatment. How do you feel? Are you anxious or worried when you bring your child to see a doctor? It is normal to have this reaction. Since it is painful to see your child suffering in pain, I shall suggest ways to help the children to cope with pain and medical treatment.

Ways to help children

1. Tell them the details of the medical appointment

You can tell the children about the date, time, place and reason for the medical appointment. You can describe the environment and person of a clinic or a hospital. Is there any toy corner, toy house or reading books for the children in the clinic or hospital? Who are the doctor and the nurse? What will they do for your children? Why do you bring your children to see doctor? What will be the treatment of the illness?

For example, the parent tells his son, ”Today, I will bring you to see Dr. Lee at 9:00 a.m. at Clinic H because you have fever. Don’t worry. The doctor and nurse are helpful and they will check your body and give you medicine so you will recover soon.”

2. Role-play at Home

Role-play is a good way of learning for the children to experience a real-life situation. Sometimes, you play the role of a doctor, nurse, and patient at home. Your children will have experience of different roles through acting.

In my experience, children usually like to act as a doctor or a nurse. They will develop a sense of mastery or control over the situation. Through the change of roles, the children will experience different roles and become more familiarised with the physical and social environments of a clinic or a hospital. You can buy a doctor kit in a toyshop to play with your children. A doctor kit includes stethoscope, thermometer, plasters, and blood pressure measuring equipment and so on. The choice of toy is according to the age and preference of the children. The role-playing game is good psychological and mental preparation for your children.

Preparing your children for the medical treatment is very important. Tell them about the medical treatment and the role-playing game at home can prepare them to see a doctor psychologically.

We hope the sections above have contributed to your understanding of support children cope with pain. Share your new understanding about support children cope with pain with others so that more children will be benefited from it.

About the Author

Ms Mak Wai Chong, a mother of 3 children, is a freelance trainer and counsellor. She has worked as social worker and counsellor for 17 years. Visit her website at http://www.WiseParents.net for prenatal training and parenting information and FREE newsletters. She has written an Ebook on Connecting With Your Unborn Baby.

Three Principles Of Communication With Unborn Baby

2008-02-04T19:02:00.000-08:00

You should be able to find several indispensable facts about principles of communication with unborn baby in the following paragraphs. If there's at least one fact you didn't know before, imagine the difference it might make. In my experience, the principles of strong belief, intention and communication help me to communicate with my unborn babies at the earliest moment.

Strong belief

The most important is the strong belief in communication with the unborn baby. When you believe strongly in communication, you will try your best to find ways to reach the unborn baby. However, when you are not certain about your belief, you may miss the opportunity to communicate with the foetus.

I had a strong belief in communication with my unborn baby from the earliest stage as I had practised with my first and second children previously. At six weeks of my third pregnancy, I asked my third child 3 times, “If you are a girl, you can make a movement to tell me.” However, there was no response from him. I asked my third child, “If you are a boy, you make a movement to show your answer.” Surprisingly, I felt him moving three times after I asked him the question. Then, I reassured my baby that I would accept him for whom he was unconditionally. I could feel a sense of relief and somehow I sensed even my baby felt the same way. On the 20th week of my pregnancy, I could not believe it when my doctor confirmed that my third child was a boy. I felt a sense of joy that I had been able to communicate with my third child so much earlier.

Intention

One of the secrets I found which make communication with the unborn possible, is to first have a deep and intense desire and yearning to communicate and bond with your baby during pregnancy.

Prenatal communication needs the intention of the mother to want to communicate with her unborn baby. I had a strong need and yearning to communicate with my third child. I started to communicate with my third child when he was about 5 weeks old in my womb. Then, I was bleeding. I rested and I kept talking and asking my baby to heal himself and to be healthy again. I believed in him, that he had the capacity to heal himself. And it was like a miracle when one day later, the bleeding stopped. I was so relieved and happy because he had responded to my message.

Commitment

Commitment is to put your belief into action. Many people may admit belief but do not go with it with real conviction by their actions. Mother should develop a vision of the unborn child. She must have a strong determination to communicate and reach out to the unborn baby.

With strong belief, intention and daily practice, you will be able to communicate with the foetus inside you. You are the closest person to him or her. Whatever you are thinking or feeling will pass on to the unborn child. Through dialogue, meditation, music, imagination, tapping, sending positive and loving messages and so on, mothers can communicate with their unborn babies.

You can't predict when knowing something extra about principles with communication with unborn baby will come in handy. If you learned anything new about communication with unborn baby in this article, you should put your learning into practice and share your experience with others.

About the Author

This article is extracted from Connecting With Your Unborn Baby Ebook. For further information, please visit www.wiseparents.net/theEbook.php

My Interest And Experience In Prenatal Training

2008-01-21T20:13:00.000-08:00

My interest in prenatal training stemmed from my own early experience in my mother's womb. Later, I found that I was able to benefit from its use with my own children during my pregnancy.

My mother related to me that while I was still in her womb, my father used to talk to me as if I was already a person of my own right. He would update me on things like, "Daddy is back home. How are you? I love you." Those were crucial moments for me. I believe it helped to build the very strong bond I have with my parents today.

I remember my mother telling me that she wanted to give birth to me in the evening when my father was around. I recall her saying that the reason is because she needed my father to support her. True enough, intuitively, I waited for my father to return home and it was only then that my mother started to have labour pains. This was my prenatal experience.

My experience with my children also proved that a connection with your child can actually begin even before the child is born. When I was expecting my first child, I sang a particular nursery rhyme and talked to my son as often as I could. Interestingly, after he was born he remembered the nursery rhyme that I had sung for him while he was in my womb. I could sense and observe that he always felt comfortable, secure and a feeling of warmth whenever he listened to it. It was the major link that helped me to make a deep connection with him. The familiarity made the bonding easier to establish.

While I was pregnant with my second child, I encountered a lot of challenges as I was experiencing the possibility of losing the child. The doctor had informed me that I had a low placenta and I even suffered gestational diabetes. This was when I began to attend the prenatal training course which used the Right Brain Training approach conducted by my teacher, May Ng, who not only guided me with her knowledge and skills, but constantly supported and reassured me with her heart. The training I received helped me greatly in facing, and in the end, overcoming all the challenges from a very positive approach. I became calm to face whatever challenges during my pregnancy. My unborn baby became more relaxed.

Copyright (c) 2004-2008, Mak Wai Chong, www.wiseparents.net, All rights reserved.

Disclaimers: The author shares this article based on her personal and work experience and disclaims any responsibility for any liability, losses or damages and /or application of any of contents of this article.

Reflection for Parents

2007-12-31T03:39:00.000-08:00

It is very challenging to be parents. You will go through a lot of joy and sorrow in the process. The adorable children may sometimes be very demanding to test our boundaries. You may get emotionally frustrated at their behaviour or character. The good news is that it is very normal to have this reaction.

We, as parents, at times find it overwhelming with our children's misbehaviour. When such situation crops up, it is the best time to stop for a while and think about how to manage such situation. What I would normally do is that I'll do my prayer first and meditate on it thereafter. It takes me a while to see from the first person perspective as a mother to the third person perspective as an observer. It is very helpful for us to go through the process as a third person trying to observe and understand what is happening for the mother and child. It is less emotional intense as in a first person position.

I used the following questions to reflect when I encounter such situation that you may find them useful as well.

1) What is happening?
2) Why I am so upset?
3) What is the need of my child? (getting attention, power and control and so on)
4) What is my expectation of my child?
5) What is my own need?
6) How can I calm down myself first?
7) Do I have support from my spouse, friends, relatives or other parents?
8) What is my belief and value of parenting?
9) Do I have any interests or hobbies?

After we pause and think, we will be able to plan for the best strategies and take action. Following that we take action and evaluate our goals and strategies of parenting whether we are moving towards our goals or away from my goals.

The important message here for parents is to take good care of ourselves physically, emotionally and mentally. Only with these we can take good care of our children. As parents, we should give ourselves space and time to do our reflection and reading books or information on parenting, personal and spiritual growth. When we are stressed and frustrated with our work or other matters, it is very hard for us to refocus and center on the needs of our children. Only when we are nourished and our needs were met, we will then be better prepared to attend to the needs of our children.

Copyright (c) 2004-2007, Mak Wai Chong, All rights reserved.

Disclaimers: The author shares this article based on her personal and work experience and disclaims any responsibility for any liability, losses or damages and /or application of any of contents of this article.

Joy with siblings

2007-12-27T21:43:00.000-08:00

My eldest son, aged 7, told me that he was very happy to play with his brothers. He especially likes to play with pet toy games, singing, dancing, kicking balls and playing in playground etc. He said, "I feel very excited to play with my brothers because it is very fun and wonderful to have siblings to play and share with." He admitted that even though he sometimes fights and argues with his brothers, he still love them and be friends with them. He said,"It will not be fun anymore if I have no siblings to play and share with."

I still remember when the second son hurt his eye accidentally. My eldest son held his hand gently and gave me the eye wash. After that, the second son felt better because the eldest son took care of him and loved him very much. I felt touched by their love to one another.

As parents, we can ask them questions to let them share about sibling relationship:

1) What do you like to do with your sibling?
2) What is your enjoyable or happiest moment with your sibling?
3) What do you like to play with your sibling?
4) What will be the difference if your sibling is not at home?
5) How do you feel when you play with your sibling?
6) Is there any difficulty when you get along with your sibling?

Mak Wai Chong

http://www.wiseparents.net/

Rejoice every moment with our child

2007-12-21T01:48:00.000-08:00

A child is always learning from us (parents) most of the time. We are his or her first teacher. I still remember my third son learnt how to clap his hands in the first time. The video clip showed how he modelled us in clapping his hands when he was 7 months old. It was very memorable moment for us to capture his learning moment. When we are with them, we are able to celebrate or rejoice the developmental milestone together with our children. Can you still remember the first speech, smile, clapping hand, step, crawl, stand etc.? The children are growing up very fast( without our knowing). We try to capture the memorable moment as much as we can. If not, we may regret later.

Question for pondering

2007-12-20T01:06:00.000-08:00

I enjoy the time to be with their children. It is joyful to see them grow, learn and struggle. When we are with them every moment, they feel the love and motivate to learn and explore.

I have sometime for reflection and pondering on basic question. I start to ask myself, ”what do I really want to develop in my children?” In the past, my answer was to develop their character of responsibility, honesty and virtue. Now, my answer would be slightly different. I still wanted to instill the good character on them. But, I would like to guide them to find out their mission of life. The good character is the foundation for them to accomplish their mission of life. They need the character foundation and life skill training to accomplish their mission of life.

Welcome to Wise Parents

2007-12-10T01:05:00.000-08:00

Welcome to Wise Parents Blog.

In my blog, I would like to share with you about my parenting experience. My husband and I have a lot of struggle in the topics of parenting with our children. We have to align our parenting approach as we come from two different families with different discipline approaches. Finally, we attended different parenting courses offered by Focus on Families and Growing Families. These courses gave us guidelines and insight for our parenting. The most challenging part is to put theory into practice.

In my past 17 years, my mission of life was serving and helping others through my work as a social worker and counsellor. However, I received calling from God to put effort and energy to serve my family as my children (aged 7,5, and 1) need me most at this point of time. I discussed with my husband about refocused on the family. He supports me and I started to work full time at home. I see myself in educating and training my children with good character as my important duty. I feel very happy that I have made an important decision to focus on my family. I am very happy as a mother of 3 adorable children. I simply enjoy sing a song, read a story or cuddle time. I can be with them at this moment. I feel the joy and peaceful with me. Thanks God give me wisdom to be with my family.